Julia Wells

Why You Should Give Up On Finding Balance

Julia Wells
Why You Should Give Up On Finding Balance

Balance has become one of the most sought after and elusive concepts. Yet does it even exist?

I will actually say yes, it totally can exist. Part of it existing is knowing what your definition of balance looks and feels like, and accepting that in different chapters it may look and feel completely different.

I don’t believe that “balance” is meant to last though, and here’s why we need to stop chasing it.

Life is cyclical by nature. Regardless of whether it’s the actual seasons of mother nature or just seasons of life (babies, jobs, relationships, moves, health, etc), the one constant we can count on is change.

The thing I see happening is that we work so hard to either chase or hold on to balance, that when we’re not “in it,” we beat ourselves up. We create elaborate stories as women about how we have to do it all, do it ourselves, and look good juggling 295043 balls at once. It’s freaking exhausting and unrealistic. It’s a flawed model and it’s time to change our mindset around balance and success.

What would happen if instead we were able to show up with grace, compassion, and patience in these times of uncertainty, change, and wacked out schedules? What if we could ask for [more] help and support in our quest to experience more balance and ease? What if we honored these times as the breeding ground for power, strength and resiliency that they really are?

I also want to be clear that I’m not suggesting resignation as the counterpoint. I’m not asking you to stop chasing those dreams. What I am suggesting is that we start to get comfortable with these cycles and seasons of our lives. Radically accepting that some seasons will bring more balance and others will feel like pure chaos, and maybe that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be.

Do you agree or disagree?

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Julia Wells is a Women’s Empowerment Coach who helps leaders find their voices, lean into their fears, and become a greater force for good in the world. She is fiercely committed to sisterhood and creating communities where women feel safe, supported, and seen. Julia landed in the Bay Area when she ditched corporate to explore entrepreneurship. She feels most alive when singing obnoxiously in the car, chasing a sunset, or practicing Buti Yoga.