The 'Enoughness' Dilemma

Four years ago this week I left my safe, cushy and guaranteed corporate job in hopes of finding something more fulfilling. I was steadily climbing my way up the ladder, collecting promotions and pay raises, all while my internal state was in a steady downward spiral, and I was feeling more lost and unfulfilled than ever. My morning pep talks to get myself to walk in the front door and return every Monday were wearing me down, and I knew I wouldn’t last much longer.

After returning home from a women’s empowerment and fitness retreat, I was done. A friend and I agreed to both quit our jobs together and start a business (that didn’t happen). But what I did do was turn in my resignation letter and commit to finding out what else I could do in this world if I stopped playing by someone else’s rules. And while I could write 15 books on my adventures in entrepreneurship over the past four years, I want to boil it all down to one thing.

The thing that makes or breaks most of us. That keeps us up at night. That holds us back. That eats away at a core level and drives us to spend dollars, time and energy wondering if we’ll ever get where we want to be.

This thing affects every single woman I know; myself, my clients, friends, mentors, role models, peers, etc.

What is it?

This idea and space that women live in where we constantly feel (and are told) we’re not enough, while simultaneously knowing we’re powerful beyond knowing and meant for so much more.

So here’s what I want to say about it today as I reflect back on my journey as well as my work empowering entrepreneurs and leaders to step into their full power while doing in a way that prioritizes pleasure and authenticity.

Dear Woman,

You are powerful.

And I’m guessing you know that...

But I’m also guessing that you’re afraid to unleash that power.

You’re terrified of making people uncomfortable.

Of being different.

Of being talked about.

You’ve been trained to hide it.

To fear it.

To doubt it.

But it’s killing you to keep playing this game.

It’s literally exhausting being stuck in the middle, knowing you’re meant for so much more, while simultaneously feeling terrified of what would happen if you went for it...

Or better yet, got it.

Would you be all alone at the top?

Would people resent you for it?

Would you somehow mess it up once you got it?

Here’s what I need you to know though…

You’re not crazy.

They designed this game to keep you in this loop.

Of constantly feeling not enough while being terrified of being too much.

They saw our power, and they did everything they knew to do to take it from us.

But forget that.

It’s time to burn the old rule book up and unleash the unstoppable woman inside of you who doesn’t play around.

You have a mission.

A calling.

A purpose.

And it’s time to quit messing around and step fully into that power.

 

Are you ready??


Julia Wells is a Women’s Empowerment Coach who helps leaders find their voices, lean into their fears, and become a greater force for good in the world. She is fiercely committed to sisterhood and creating communities where women feel safe, supported, and seen. Julia landed in the Bay Area when she ditched corporate to explore entrepreneurship. She feels most alive when singing obnoxiously in the car, chasing a sunset, or practicing Buti Yoga.