There’s a big difference between having money and feeling abundant.
The first year I took my business past that all-important six-figure mark, I waited impatiently for that long-desired sense of abundance to set in… but it never came. I still felt like the same frazzled, overworked mompreneur I’d always been. Self-care and spaciousness hadn’t magically happened. Nor had the sense of freedom I’ve always associated with abundance. In fact, I was working longer and harder than ever. Sure, it was great to have some extra cash lying around, but nothing else had changed.
After a few teenager-ish meltdowns and some deep soul searching, I realized that what I really wanted wasn’t money. It was abundance. And to receive abundance, I had to make a fundamental shift in my thinking.
You see, abundance isn’t about how much we have or don’t have. It’s not about our clothes, or our cars, or any of the material stuff. It’s not about how hard we work. It’s a mindset founded on trust. And because it’s an internal state, it’s also a choice―a choice we can make every day through our thoughts, actions, and relationships.
Simply put, abundance is:
The feeling that everything you need to move forward in life will be available to you at precisely the right time
The willingness to recognize and receive those things when they present themselves
We can choose this feeling, this focus, and this level of trust, at will, every day, regardless of our current circumstances.
Women, in particular, have a complicated relationship with abundance. Of course, we all have our own money stories (some of which are helpful, others of which are disempowering in the extreme), but beyond that, there are four key areas in which the women I meet habitually cut themselves off from abundance. These mindsets keep them from enjoying the level of trust, ease, flow, and security they’re truly seeking.
The four most common abundance blockers for women are:
Lack of vulnerability
Lack of self-worth
When we don’t trust other people (especially other women); when we are locked into a mindset of scarcity; when we fear to share our truth because others may judge us; when we make choices based on our perception of our own lack of value: these choices impact everything in our lives, from our money to our relationships to our inner connection. And, when we are entrepreneurs or in a position of leadership, they impact our work, our client relationships, and the ways in which we relate to and manage our teams.
We’ll be delving into each of these abundance blockers in detail during the Women in Leadership Nexus December event. I know that when you look at these areas of your life through this new lens, you will open up massive new channels to receive abundance in all areas of your life in ways you’ve never been able to befoYou’ll feel a knowing that everything you need will be provided―even if, in the moment, you can’t understand how.
And the best part is, when we open to true abundance in our lives, we give other women permission and a pathway to do the same.
Bryna will be the featured speaker at the upcoming Nexus chapter event, “Manifesting True Abundance: A Paradigm Shift for Empowered Women.” The event, taking place Tuesday, December 4, from 3:30-7:30 pm at Hotel Providence, will allow attendees to explore the ways women habitually cut themselves off from abundance in their lives both personally and professionally, and how we can reclaim it through being in our authenticity, vulnerability, and trust every day. There are a limited amount of tickets open for non-members. Click here to learn more or to register.
Philosopher, seeker, waymaker, coach, and award-winning, best-selling author: Bryna Haynes is the creator of Choose Your Evolution. She empowers others to harness their own power as creators and live in their genius through conscious choice, inspired action, new perspectives—and, most importantly, knowing how to ask the right questions. Learn more about Bryna and her work at www.chooseyourevolution.blog.